7 Things to Consider before Dating a Debt Collector

I worked a lot (uhmm, not quite) on the floors of collections and the life there is very... it's mind-boggling and it's very challenging. And I've always taught myself to look for the beauty in it and to be grateful as this have opened a lot of possibilities for me as an agent (from mostly travel accounts) that I myself never thought I could do. If collecting a weeks or month old debt from your friends or neighbors is rock hard, imagine collecting debts from a year ago, two, three, four, and backwards from people you don't even know. It's horrible and will definitely send shivers down your spine! It really takes skills and mind-twisting techniques to the point of believing into magic just to curve that tough "NO" into a soft "YES".

Now, ever considered dating a debt collector? Beware. They might be just contaminated already of the whole debt-collecting system. Contagious it is. Here are some of the precautions.

1. He/She is adamant.

While he may be as cool as cucumber at first, he can lose his cool too sometimes. He has his own terms and conditions. And while you are entitled to yours, it should be attainable and should it get beyond from what he deemed reasonable, you have to meet halfway at the very least. Agreeing exclusively to all your lousy terms and conditions is certainly not going to happen. Oh! yes maybe, when the pigs fly.

2. He needs a proof, always.

Words isn't enough for him. He's had enough of trusting promising words which quickly dissipate into thin air. He needs something that can be felt and seen not just those that are heard. While words can stir the best out of one's imagination, it'll not work for him. Not anymore.

3. He is a masterplanner.

Ditch your SB planner because he plans better. He wants you make up your mind to commit into an arrangement and he wants your intentions to be felt to the core at the highest level. No matter how little you commit, just as long as it's real and consistent, he is relieved.

4. He needs a clear YES.

He hates people beating round the bush. He's a man who doesn't seem to have too much time in the world. When he asks, you answer. Get your facts straight. Saying yes or no is easy. It's not rocket science!

5. He sets expectations.  

Now that he knows your intention, he then sets expectations of what's going to happen if you do this or you do that, or if you don't do this and you don't do that. For every good instance, there's a reward and for every bad one, you face consequence.

6. He's inquisitive.

He's more like a private investigator but less of a spy. There's reason for everything is his mantra in life. There's a reason for every yes and solutions for every no. He sees silver lining for every grey cloud. "What about this?", "what about that?" or "How's that sounds?" are most likely what he will say. He inquires so he can gauge you to see what's best that can be done.

7. He always makes sure that you're the right person.

For him, spending too much time to someone who is not even the right person is like preaching a legless man how to run, it's pointless. Not to sound patronizing, but it is what it is. But once he found out that you are the one, disclosure happens and you both are off to a roller coaster ride!

P.S. This is just my two cents people. So yeah, spread love and together, we are bound to an amazing world where negativity could not grow and foster. Charaught!